Anger and arrogance are two great enemies of humans
- Table of contents
- Anger and arrogance.
- Two great enemies of humans
- State of Arrogance
- Islamic Concept
- Now please read a harrowing episode
- Simple steps to overcome anger and arrogance
- According to Islamic teachings.
- Conclusion
'Anger and arrogance are two great enemies of humans'.
An image of the highest stage of anger.Image credit to RobinHiggins
In the journey of life, humans often encounter numerous challenges that test their emotional flexibility and interpersonal relationships. Among the many obstacles that can hinder personal growth and happiness, two formidable enemies stand out: anger and arrogance
These negative emotions can poison our thoughts, damage relationships, and hinder our ability to lead fulfilling lives. In this post, I will discuss the effects of anger and arrogance on individuals and society as a whole, highlighting the importance of managing these emotions and fostering a more compassionate and humble approach.
Anger is defined as a violent rage, discontent, and emotion sparked by a sense of wrong, physical pain, inflammation, madness, being hot-tempered, choleric, inflamed, etc., or a furious rage sparked by actual or imagined harm. It is a fire that is always bursting.
It is also an extremely harmful emotion that makes a person weak. It is a strong sense of irritation, discontent, and animosity called anger. It can be a medical problem like high blood pressure, diabetes, a blood clot, a heart problem, a headache, skin diseases, tension, stress, physical abuse, or addiction.
Everyone is made of soil and will eventually return to it. One's own needs are genuine because he or she cannot control their life, health, or property.
Those who reject My devotion (because of pride) will surely suffer humiliation when they enter Hell!" (Quran, 40:60).
The Holy Prophet (PBUH) said. I'm aware that if someone makes a statement, their fury will subside. An angry individual ought to say, "I seek Allah from Satan the Outcast."
Humanity's hidden weapon against evil is anger, yet occasionally it also destroys many wonderful characteristics. Humanity is reduced to a brutish, senseless beast as it robs him of his wisdom.
Anger is a temptation from Satan and a tool of his deception. All evil stems from anger. In a statement, Hazrat Ali (Razi Allah Taala anho) said, "O' creatures of Allah! You were formed by Allah without your consent. He will look after you as long as you live.
Man is inherently needy, weak, and nothing. In another statement, Hazrat Ali (Razi Allah Taala Anho) said, "I'm startled about the arrogant guy. Right now, Nissle's blood is under our skin, and what is in our stomachs and intestines is known. He was filthy scum in the beginning, and at the end, he will be a decayed body.
A person's spirituality is severely harmed by pride and arrogance. It can also harm another person's sense of well-being and contentment. As Muslims, we must uphold our moral principles of modesty, respect, and compassion.
We must constantly be mindful of our need to treat everyone with the respect we would want from them. We are all merely Allah's servants, so we have no business feeling proud or conceited.
Anger and arrogance are two great enemies of humans. Both of them are dangerous if they are separated, but if they are gathered in one place, they become killers.
An ordinary person's anger is extinguished, but the fire of an arrogant person's anger does not cool down until everything is burned to ashes in that fire.
You should never let the two types of fire mix together. Remember, if you want to avoid thousands of insults, learn to tolerate a few insults, and if you want to avoid someone's brick, never make the mistake of grinding Allah's creation in the wheel of ego and power, because he who has none, Allah stands behind, and even the greatest pharaohs become helpless in front of Allah (SWT).
Reducing the physiological stimulation and emotional emotions that anger causes are the main objectives of anger management. You can learn to regulate your reactions, even while you can't change, ignore, or get rid of the things or people who bother you.
Genetic or physiological factors can be the underlying cause. There is evidence that certain children are inherently touchy, irritable, and quick to anger. These characteristics emerge very early on.
Another set of elements is socio-cultural. In contrast, we are taught that it is OK to express other feelings like fear and depression. Expressions of wrath are generally considered negative. We don't learn how to control it or make good use of it.
Because of their perceived superiority, arrogant people view themselves as having unique authority. They view questioning as improper. Additionally, they view criticism as offensive since it shows a disregard for their alleged authority. Consequently, people react to it angrily.
Anger is a negative feeling aimed at someone thought to be purposefully hurting or demeaning oneself. Along with it comes a desire for reprisal or revenge. Criticism essentially reduces the arrogant person to being treated like an average person, but arrogant people view it as offensive.
An image of the highest stage of anger.Image credit to RobinHiggins
In the journey of life, humans often encounter numerous challenges that test their emotional flexibility and interpersonal relationships. Among the many obstacles that can hinder personal growth and happiness, two formidable enemies stand out: anger and arrogance
These negative emotions can poison our thoughts, damage relationships, and hinder our ability to lead fulfilling lives. In this post, I will discuss the effects of anger and arrogance on individuals and society as a whole, highlighting the importance of managing these emotions and fostering a more compassionate and humble approach.
Anger is defined as a violent rage, discontent, and emotion sparked by a sense of wrong, physical pain, inflammation, madness, being hot-tempered, choleric, inflamed, etc., or a furious rage sparked by actual or imagined harm. It is a fire that is always bursting.
It is also an extremely harmful emotion that makes a person weak. It is a strong sense of irritation, discontent, and animosity called anger. It can be a medical problem like high blood pressure, diabetes, a blood clot, a heart problem, a headache, skin diseases, tension, stress, physical abuse, or addiction.
State of Arrogance
Arrogance is a state in which one believes one is special and significant. He is robbed of reality and left with just his imagination. In truth, nobody is anything.Everyone is made of soil and will eventually return to it. One's own needs are genuine because he or she cannot control their life, health, or property.
ISLAMIC CONCEPT
Refusing to surrender and worshiping Allah Almighty in the presence of His Majesty is the lowest sort of arrogance. Allah Almighty mentions these haughty people in the Holy Qur'an, saying, "Verily!Those who reject My devotion (because of pride) will surely suffer humiliation when they enter Hell!" (Quran, 40:60).
The Holy Prophet (PBUH) said. I'm aware that if someone makes a statement, their fury will subside. An angry individual ought to say, "I seek Allah from Satan the Outcast."
Humanity's hidden weapon against evil is anger, yet occasionally it also destroys many wonderful characteristics. Humanity is reduced to a brutish, senseless beast as it robs him of his wisdom.
Anger is a temptation from Satan and a tool of his deception. All evil stems from anger. In a statement, Hazrat Ali (Razi Allah Taala anho) said, "O' creatures of Allah! You were formed by Allah without your consent. He will look after you as long as you live.
Man is inherently needy, weak, and nothing. In another statement, Hazrat Ali (Razi Allah Taala Anho) said, "I'm startled about the arrogant guy. Right now, Nissle's blood is under our skin, and what is in our stomachs and intestines is known. He was filthy scum in the beginning, and at the end, he will be a decayed body.
A person's spirituality is severely harmed by pride and arrogance. It can also harm another person's sense of well-being and contentment. As Muslims, we must uphold our moral principles of modesty, respect, and compassion.
We must constantly be mindful of our need to treat everyone with the respect we would want from them. We are all merely Allah's servants, so we have no business feeling proud or conceited.
Anger and arrogance are two great enemies of humans. Both of them are dangerous if they are separated, but if they are gathered in one place, they become killers.
An ordinary person's anger is extinguished, but the fire of an arrogant person's anger does not cool down until everything is burned to ashes in that fire.
You should never let the two types of fire mix together. Remember, if you want to avoid thousands of insults, learn to tolerate a few insults, and if you want to avoid someone's brick, never make the mistake of grinding Allah's creation in the wheel of ego and power, because he who has none, Allah stands behind, and even the greatest pharaohs become helpless in front of Allah (SWT).
Reducing the physiological stimulation and emotional emotions that anger causes are the main objectives of anger management. You can learn to regulate your reactions, even while you can't change, ignore, or get rid of the things or people who bother you.
Genetic or physiological factors can be the underlying cause. There is evidence that certain children are inherently touchy, irritable, and quick to anger. These characteristics emerge very early on.
Another set of elements is socio-cultural. In contrast, we are taught that it is OK to express other feelings like fear and depression. Expressions of wrath are generally considered negative. We don't learn how to control it or make good use of it.
Because of their perceived superiority, arrogant people view themselves as having unique authority. They view questioning as improper. Additionally, they view criticism as offensive since it shows a disregard for their alleged authority. Consequently, people react to it angrily.
Anger is a negative feeling aimed at someone thought to be purposefully hurting or demeaning oneself. Along with it comes a desire for reprisal or revenge. Criticism essentially reduces the arrogant person to being treated like an average person, but arrogant people view it as offensive.
People with arrogance believe they are above the norm. They demand to be treated as such because they feel superior.
Now please read a harrowing episode of arrogance that destroyed four families. One day I went to Central Jail to meet a friend. Where I saw a dignified, Sober and honorable prisoner of a different nature.
His calmness and his personality surprised me. My friend told me that he will be hanged in a few days. The president rejected his appeal. The whole prison was gloomy, but there was deep satisfaction and peace on his face. All the inmates of the jail, government and non-government staff respected him a lot.
He was known as the “Mother Teresa" of the prison and the companion of all sorrows. He was a happy man. Relatives, dear relatives, siblings and friends were people who ate and drank. He used to write letters to whomever he saw in trouble in jail, and his problem was solved.
He is very intelligent. He was a classy and wonderful person, but despite that, he was in prison for the crime of murder. And awaiting the death penalty.
I was surprised at this. Seeing his mesmerizing personality come out of my mouth helplessly SAHIB (Sir), have you really been killed? He replied: “Yes.” What was that?" I asked: “What happened?"
He replied:My family and I are respected in our area. People respect us a lot. A new young man appeared in our city. He had returned from Dubai after earning money. The money took its toll on him, and he started to get confused with people.
The people of my area are poor, so no one stopped his hand, so his confidence kept increasing until one day he stood in front of me. I was passing through the market in the car with my younger brother. There was a slightly bitter conversation during the car ride. I tried to avoid the matter by smiling, but he took out the pistol.
He stood in the market and started abusing me in front of hundreds of people. People used to respect me, but he was standing in the midst of them and giving me dirty words. I endured. My brother tried to get out but I held his hand. I kept telling my brother again and again that this is not our level and we should not fight with him.
My brother was shaking with anger. When the new bully saw my brother angry, he called him disrespectful. My brother was young, he could not control his anger and got out of the car. This wretch shot at my brother. But my brother survived. I had no option now but to get out and fight. I got out, and after that what was not supposed to happen happened."
Sahib, took a long drag of his cigarette with satisfaction, looked at me, and said:“But I thought we did not kill him. His pride and stupidity killed the wretch. He had left us no way; if he had given us a chance to retreat, we would have returned. He would have gone away, and thus he would have been saved, but alas, he continued to challenge us and thus he was killed."
After that, Sahib gave me a wonderful lesson in life which I have not forgotten till now. He said:You should never take your young son or brother with you to a place where there is a risk of a quarrel or where there is a rude person because you are sensible. You take control of the situation.
"You ignore your small insults." But your brothers or children cannot tolerate your humiliation or disrespect, and thus the matter gets out of hand.
He gave another lesson: You should never make the mistake of dishonoring an honorable person in front of people. You should never abuse him in a public place because even the most sensible and tolerant person in the world cannot bear his disrespect in public, and thus you have to bear the consequences of this mistake.
His calmness and his personality surprised me. My friend told me that he will be hanged in a few days. The president rejected his appeal. The whole prison was gloomy, but there was deep satisfaction and peace on his face. All the inmates of the jail, government and non-government staff respected him a lot.
He was known as the “Mother Teresa" of the prison and the companion of all sorrows. He was a happy man. Relatives, dear relatives, siblings and friends were people who ate and drank. He used to write letters to whomever he saw in trouble in jail, and his problem was solved.
He is very intelligent. He was a classy and wonderful person, but despite that, he was in prison for the crime of murder. And awaiting the death penalty.
I was surprised at this. Seeing his mesmerizing personality come out of my mouth helplessly SAHIB (Sir), have you really been killed? He replied: “Yes.” What was that?" I asked: “What happened?"
He replied:My family and I are respected in our area. People respect us a lot. A new young man appeared in our city. He had returned from Dubai after earning money. The money took its toll on him, and he started to get confused with people.
The people of my area are poor, so no one stopped his hand, so his confidence kept increasing until one day he stood in front of me. I was passing through the market in the car with my younger brother. There was a slightly bitter conversation during the car ride. I tried to avoid the matter by smiling, but he took out the pistol.
He stood in the market and started abusing me in front of hundreds of people. People used to respect me, but he was standing in the midst of them and giving me dirty words. I endured. My brother tried to get out but I held his hand. I kept telling my brother again and again that this is not our level and we should not fight with him.
My brother was shaking with anger. When the new bully saw my brother angry, he called him disrespectful. My brother was young, he could not control his anger and got out of the car. This wretch shot at my brother. But my brother survived. I had no option now but to get out and fight. I got out, and after that what was not supposed to happen happened."
Sahib, took a long drag of his cigarette with satisfaction, looked at me, and said:“But I thought we did not kill him. His pride and stupidity killed the wretch. He had left us no way; if he had given us a chance to retreat, we would have returned. He would have gone away, and thus he would have been saved, but alas, he continued to challenge us and thus he was killed."
After that, Sahib gave me a wonderful lesson in life which I have not forgotten till now. He said:You should never take your young son or brother with you to a place where there is a risk of a quarrel or where there is a rude person because you are sensible. You take control of the situation.
"You ignore your small insults." But your brothers or children cannot tolerate your humiliation or disrespect, and thus the matter gets out of hand.
He gave another lesson: You should never make the mistake of dishonoring an honorable person in front of people. You should never abuse him in a public place because even the most sensible and tolerant person in the world cannot bear his disrespect in public, and thus you have to bear the consequences of this mistake.
If you have to insult someone, do it alone. On an occasion Hazrat ALI (Razi Allah Taala Anho) said "Never tell or point out someone mistake infront of others. Tell him separately." It will be fruitable.
The sound of your abuse should not reach the ears of others." And after that, he gave me the third lesson. This lesson was about worldliness. He pointed to a dirty drunk with a patty pan while walking around the prison and said: “This is Charsi (a marijuana addict).
This Charsi hit a brick on the head of the son of a big industrialist in the city. The industrialist's son fell down and died on the spot. He was arrested, and now he has been sentenced to death, but this is not the real story. The real story is completely different from that."
He stopped and said: That industrialist was very powerful. He had only one son, but that son drowned in the intoxication of wealth and power. One day, the son started a car race on Mall Road. His car went out of control, and he ran over a young man. That young man was the only brother of three sisters.
He had just graduated from the engineering university and was going home with sweets in the joy of passing, but he was killed by Amirzade's (the son of Richman's) uncontrolled car. It was painful, so the government was forced to take notice.
The industrialist's son was arrested. A case was registered against him. The judge was strict. He was sentenced to death.
The relatives were also at odds. They exerted their full force. Political influence is also used. Money flowed like water. Expensive lawyers were hired, but the killer was caught in the wheel of fate. There was only one way left for the industrialist to bleed the family. Because the mother and father of the slain were not accepting any proposal about compromise.
The industrialist had to save his child at all costs, so he resorted to extreme tactics. He sent a gang to kidnap the sister of the slain from college. They picked her up. While The other sister was threatened. That poor family was on my contact list.
Baig Sahib, the father of the deceased, came to me. I listened to his whole story, and after that, I advised him to reconcile with the murderous party. Take the girl back and forgive the murderer.
Baig Sahib was surprised. He looked at me. I told him. They are influential people. He will not let his son be hanged. You are a gentle, poor, and vulnerable person. You have three young daughters at home. Son, you are lost, and I fear you and your daughters will suffer more.
You have no choice but to forgive. He tearfully asked me, "But my justice?" I raised my finger to the sky and said to him, “Allah will do justice to you. God willing, you and your family will not leave this world without seeing his body."
He asked, “How does?'' I replied, A murderer is a very proud and arrogant person. He will get out of prison and become even more arrogant. He will fall on somebody's throat one day, and so one day he will be killed on the road. Nature will surely show you his dead body." "
Baig Sahib accepted my words, and he forgave the murderer; thus, he and his daughters were safe. A year later the same thing happened. The killer abused the Charsi(Marijuana addict) in a drunken state. In response, the Charsi(Marijuana addict) hit him on the head with a brick and he fell on the road and died there.
Baig Sahib now comes to jail every week with food and thanks me. Currently, his three daughters are living in their own homes. Sahib became silent.
The sound of your abuse should not reach the ears of others." And after that, he gave me the third lesson. This lesson was about worldliness. He pointed to a dirty drunk with a patty pan while walking around the prison and said: “This is Charsi (a marijuana addict).
This Charsi hit a brick on the head of the son of a big industrialist in the city. The industrialist's son fell down and died on the spot. He was arrested, and now he has been sentenced to death, but this is not the real story. The real story is completely different from that."
He stopped and said: That industrialist was very powerful. He had only one son, but that son drowned in the intoxication of wealth and power. One day, the son started a car race on Mall Road. His car went out of control, and he ran over a young man. That young man was the only brother of three sisters.
He had just graduated from the engineering university and was going home with sweets in the joy of passing, but he was killed by Amirzade's (the son of Richman's) uncontrolled car. It was painful, so the government was forced to take notice.
The industrialist's son was arrested. A case was registered against him. The judge was strict. He was sentenced to death.
The relatives were also at odds. They exerted their full force. Political influence is also used. Money flowed like water. Expensive lawyers were hired, but the killer was caught in the wheel of fate. There was only one way left for the industrialist to bleed the family. Because the mother and father of the slain were not accepting any proposal about compromise.
The industrialist had to save his child at all costs, so he resorted to extreme tactics. He sent a gang to kidnap the sister of the slain from college. They picked her up. While The other sister was threatened. That poor family was on my contact list.
Baig Sahib, the father of the deceased, came to me. I listened to his whole story, and after that, I advised him to reconcile with the murderous party. Take the girl back and forgive the murderer.
Baig Sahib was surprised. He looked at me. I told him. They are influential people. He will not let his son be hanged. You are a gentle, poor, and vulnerable person. You have three young daughters at home. Son, you are lost, and I fear you and your daughters will suffer more.
You have no choice but to forgive. He tearfully asked me, "But my justice?" I raised my finger to the sky and said to him, “Allah will do justice to you. God willing, you and your family will not leave this world without seeing his body."
He asked, “How does?'' I replied, A murderer is a very proud and arrogant person. He will get out of prison and become even more arrogant. He will fall on somebody's throat one day, and so one day he will be killed on the road. Nature will surely show you his dead body." "
Baig Sahib accepted my words, and he forgave the murderer; thus, he and his daughters were safe. A year later the same thing happened. The killer abused the Charsi(Marijuana addict) in a drunken state. In response, the Charsi(Marijuana addict) hit him on the head with a brick and he fell on the road and died there.
Baig Sahib now comes to jail every week with food and thanks me. Currently, his three daughters are living in their own homes. Sahib became silent.
Simple steps to overcome anger and arrogance
You can try these simple steps:1. Use your diaphragm to breathe slowly and deeply. You can't relax if you only breathe from your chest. Consider the source of your breath to be your "innards."
2.Slowly repeat calming words or phrases like "relax," "take it easy," "calm down," and "come down" over and over. Say these things out loud to yourself as you're taking a deep breath. You'll see the advantages right away.
2.Slowly repeat calming words or phrases like "relax," "take it easy," "calm down," and "come down" over and over. Say these things out loud to yourself as you're taking a deep breath. You'll see the advantages right away.
3. You may quiet down and relax your muscles with mild, easy yoga-style motions.You can imagine a peaceful time from memory or your imagination.
4. Apply these techniques regularly. Get accustomed to employing them without thinking when faced with difficult circumstances.
According to Islamic teachings.
When you are angry, recite these verses from the Holy Quran In Sha, Allah, you will get rid of anger, or you could get out of the fit of anger:1. First of all, you should recite "auzubillah mina shaitan nirajeem". Its translation is I seek refuge with Allah from Satan, the accursed.
2. Secondly you should recite "la howla wala qowwata illa billah." Translation: There is neither might nor power except with Allah.
3. Another way to shun the anger is if you are standing, then try to sit down. If you are still in the grip of anger, try to lie down. In this way, surely you will be able to reduce or overpower the intensity of anger.
By recognizing the detrimental effects of anger and arrogance. We can take proactive steps to manage these emotions and cultivate a more compassionate and humble approach to life. Through self-reflection, empathy, and practicing forgiveness, we can free ourselves from the grip of anger and arrogance.
These practices allow us to experience greater joy, fulfillment, and harmonious connections with those around us. Let us strive to replace anger with understanding and arrogance with humility. In these qualities we find the true essence of our humanity.
Really, it is a fact that these two habits, ‘Anger and arrogance, are two great enemies of humans.’ A person's greatest adversaries are anger and arrogance. Both are dangerous,but they turn into hidden killers when they get together.
A person’s wrath can be put out, but an arrogant person's anger doesn't go out until everything is reduced to ashes in its inner fire. Always remember! Never combine, Never grind Allah's lovely creation into the wheel of ego and power.
Allah stands behind the poor, weak, shelterless, and powerless people. Remember, if you want to prevent thousands of insults, learn to tolerate a few insults.
To get quick help from Allah and get rid of laziness, lethargy, frustration, and other medical or physical problems, always say 'Astaghfirullah'. May Allah (SWT) give everyone the ability to read and practice what I wrote and give everyone Jannat (paradise) hereafter.
3. Another way to shun the anger is if you are standing, then try to sit down. If you are still in the grip of anger, try to lie down. In this way, surely you will be able to reduce or overpower the intensity of anger.
Conclusion
Anger and arrogance are indeed two great enemies of humans. These can wreak havoc on our personal well-being and our relationships with others. These destructive emotions rob us of our peace, cloud our judgment, and create a barrier to personal growth.By recognizing the detrimental effects of anger and arrogance. We can take proactive steps to manage these emotions and cultivate a more compassionate and humble approach to life. Through self-reflection, empathy, and practicing forgiveness, we can free ourselves from the grip of anger and arrogance.
These practices allow us to experience greater joy, fulfillment, and harmonious connections with those around us. Let us strive to replace anger with understanding and arrogance with humility. In these qualities we find the true essence of our humanity.
Really, it is a fact that these two habits, ‘Anger and arrogance, are two great enemies of humans.’ A person's greatest adversaries are anger and arrogance. Both are dangerous,but they turn into hidden killers when they get together.
A person’s wrath can be put out, but an arrogant person's anger doesn't go out until everything is reduced to ashes in its inner fire. Always remember! Never combine, Never grind Allah's lovely creation into the wheel of ego and power.
Allah stands behind the poor, weak, shelterless, and powerless people. Remember, if you want to prevent thousands of insults, learn to tolerate a few insults.
To get quick help from Allah and get rid of laziness, lethargy, frustration, and other medical or physical problems, always say 'Astaghfirullah'. May Allah (SWT) give everyone the ability to read and practice what I wrote and give everyone Jannat (paradise) hereafter.
Author: Rab Nawaz, MA, B.Ed, Principal, Steps School, Rawalpindi Pakistan.
Sites consulted for reference
https://themuslimvibe.com/faith-islam/1
https://blog.oup.com/2019/04/arrogant-people-anger/#
https://www.apa.org/topics/anger/control
Sites consulted for reference
https://themuslimvibe.com/faith-islam/1
https://blog.oup.com/2019/04/arrogant-people-anger/#
https://www.apa.org/topics/anger/control
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